When To Leave
Where to begin.
We understand that this is a process and that it’s a tough decision to make. Begin by knowing that this change can lead to the healthy, empowered future you deserve. You’ll probably have ups and downs, but if you feel tempted to give up and go back, call YWCA at (707) 546-1234 for support. We can provide resources and support for the issues you face such as divorce, custody, child support, housing, immigration, and finances. These issues can seem overwhelming and may cloud your ability to make safe and healthy decisions — but there is a way through it, and you don’t have to do it alone. Make a call to YWCA and talk with a trained domestic violence counselor — it’s a good first step.
If you are leaving your abuser, ask yourself the following questions:
How and when can you most safely leave? Where will you go?
Are you comfortable calling the police if you need them?
Who can you trust to tell that you are leaving?
How will you travel safely to and from work or school, or to pick up your children?
What community and legal resources will help you feel safer? (Write down their addresses and phone numbers and keep them handy. YWCA can help you find the appropriate resources.)
Do you know the number of Sonoma County’s only emergency shelter for domestic violence survivors? Help is only a phone call away at (707) 546-1234
What custody and visitation arrangements will keep you and your children safe?
Is a restraining order a viable option?
Your Rights
You have the right to live without violence.
You have the right to immediate medical care if required.
You have the right to request an emergency protective order.
You have the right to request the arrest of an offender and the right to file a complaint with the police.
You have the right to a Domestic Violence Advocate to provide you with support and information.
You have the right to be protected from harassment from an employer for appearing as a witness in court if you have received a subpoena.